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Some thoughts on Forgiveness from
"The Forgiveness Formula" by Kathleen Griffin

The Ten Golden Rules of Forgiveness:

1. Forgive and the whole landscape will change.
2. You are the only one who can change-those who have done you wrong have nothing to do with your forgiveness process.
3. You can only forgive when you are ready- it won't work until you are .
4. When you forgive and let go, you change and then the whole world is different.
5. There will always be someone else to forgive, so the better you get at it, the easier life will be.
6. When you forgive the big stuff, you will always have a scar on your heart: that way you won't forget.
7. Sitting on top of the mountain of being in the right is a very lonely place.
8. Think of people you know who can forgive. Now think of those who bear a grudge-which camp would you rather be in?
9. If you can learn to forgive yourself, you are more than halfway there.
10. It is never to late to forgive.


The forgiveness formula:

* It means completely letting go of the hurt this person has done you.
* It means letting go of the hold this narrative has had on your life.
* It means getting rid of a piece of garbage that you will no longer have to carry around with you.
* It does not mean forgetting what has been done to you.
* It does not mean that you do not learn lessons from what happened to you.


This is as inspiring book on how to let go of the pain that we tend to hold onto from trauma in our lives. Forgiveness of others and ourselves helps to lead us to a place of peace and happiness.

I highly recommend reading this book.